Friday, January 23, 2009

Overcome Jealousy

To view this directly on YouTube click here Stop Being Jealous

The ability to overcome jealousy is an admirable trait, especially for competitive sorts. Whist healthy competition is a valuable motivational force jealous tendencies are counterproductive. Help for jealousy is available through hypnosis. This process offers a way to help you change the way that you think about your competition.

Objectivity

Taking an objective view of a problem is extremely difficult and when it comes to jealous emotions, it can seem impossible. However, an objective stance is necessary to ensure that you take control of the situation. Objectivity often leads to a realistic perception that is very valuable.

Obtaining distance during a jealous episode is impossible without the support of your subconscious mind. The emotion stems from an automatic cycle that has developed over time. This cycle can be reversed once you recognize the pattern and work through the automatic thought patterns that set the emotional response in motion.

Jealous Cycles

Jealous cycles are troublesome but they can be addressed through the subconscious mind. Consider the link between thoughts, emotional responses and behavioural follow-through. Negative, insecure thinking patterns lead to natural emotional responses that lead to jealous behaviour. It is most likely that the behaviour you exhibit is the source of the problems in your situation.

Overcome Jealousy By Overcoming Fear

Fear is a fundamental emotion that is very powerful. Those who have jealous tendencies are afraid of losing relationships or property that is dear to them. This fear sets off very strong feelings, including anger, hence the phrase “jealous rage”.

Hypnosis

Hypnosis is an excellent approach to overcoming jealous tendencies. Changing the patterns of thoughts requires entering the subconscious mind and a self-hypnosis recording like Overcome Jealousy is invaluable.

Those who prefer guidance of a more personal level can seek support from a trained hypnotherapist. You can find excellent hypnotists at Treatment And Help For Jealousy who can help you stop being jealous.

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Friday, July 18, 2008

Overcome Jealousy: Hypnosis For Jealousy

Self Hypnosis To Overcome Jealousy

To watch this directly on YouTube click here Stop Being Jealous

So what exactly is jealousy? It’s an out of control imagination, that’s what it is. And you can learn to overcome jealousy with self hypnosis.

Sometimes there is a good reason for being jealous, if your partner has cheated on you, for example. When I see clients in private practice for this, however, nine times out of ten there is no good reason for the feelings of jealousy. It’s just a habit that they learned, and the good news is that it doesn’t matter how the jealousy started, it’s possible to overcome jealousy either by seeing a good hypnotherapist or by listening to a well made self hypnosis recording.

Jealousy Is Another Word For Anger

Well it is usually another word for anger. In the majority of cases the result of jealous feelings is anger. Occasionally it results in withdrawn, moody behaviour but it’s usually anger. And then afterwards the jealous person gets to beat themselves up because they feel so bad about being so ‘stupid’ and over-reacting.

Jealousy Is Not Stupidity

If you were to wake up in the morning and have the thought, ‘shall I be cool, calm and collected today or shall I have jealous fits at the slightest provocation’, and you really had the choice, you would not be jealous. Not if you really had the choice. And if you really had the choice to feel calm and wonderful and you actually then deliberately and consciously chose to be in a jealous rage then yes, that would be stupid.

Jealousy Is A Habit

Our thoughts and behaviours are conditioned by the environment and our experiences and the mind makes ‘patterns’ of thinking depending upon this conditioning. So pretty much everything we think or do we have ‘learned’ to think or do, at least that is how it seems to me.

So jealousy works like this. You see (or imagine) some trigger situation, and that creates the feeling. Typically the ‘jealous’ person ‘sees’ (imagines) the thing vividly, and the more vividly they have the thought the bigger the feeling. Someone who has repeatedly been jealous for years will have so automated this through repetition that it can be seemingly instantaneous response.

Self Hypnosis To Overcome Jealousy

The way that self hypnosis works to overcome jealousy is to retrain this pattern of thought at an unconscious level so that the mind makes more useful and appropriate thoughts, so that the old thoughts simply do not impact upon their neurology. Then, through repetition of listening, the mind gets trained to have more appropriate thoughts at those times that would have been trigger situations, and that’s that. Sometimes other techniques are used to train your mind to make the thoughts of jealousy literally seem more distant in your mind, lessening or eliminating their impact upon your feelings.

That’s a bit like the difference between watching a horror film on a giant cinema screen with surround sound and watching the same film on a tiny little TV the other side of a big room. It may be the same film but it simply won’t affect you in the distance.

A good example of this kind of thing is Joseph Clough’s Overcome Jealousy. Joseph himself makes the point that if you could stop being jealous consciously, you would, but you can’t, because it’s an unconscious process. Hypnosis works with unconscious processes and therefore can be a very good way to overcome jealousy.

It is a good point.

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